X, Y, and Z all know each other. X tells Y that Z is an ass. What should Y do?
- Don't tell Z and don't worry
- Tell Z and create some drama
do it for X - he or she might not be serious, might be exaggerating or kidding
do it for self - no need to create drama, no context to refer to, spreading gossip might backfire by violating trust
do it for Z - doesn't need to know, doesn't need to drama
Reasons for Y to choose the second option (1%):
do it to screw X - don't like or don't care much about X, or think that new will never circle back to X
do it for self - gain trust of Z, create some drama in life, may benefit from rift between X and Z
do it for Z - much better friend that X, therefore must alarm
The diligent you would have of course guessed that I got into trouble... that's right, I've been X, I've been Y, and I've been Z! Everybody has, there's no exception.
X - okay, so I shouldn't have opened my big mouth, whether I mean it or not.
Y - I don't like drama, and I think it backfires more than one realizes
Z - I generally dismiss the comments because people say different things in differen contexts. I can't judge it. Hence... people tend to not deliver the news
The Chinese translation for gossip is "yes and no" (是非)... for some odd reason, gossip travels much faster in Chinese circles. A friend of mine and I discussed this and came to the following conclusion: because Asian cultures are geared towards groups and units, there's a higher tendency to "cement" membership within the group by spreading gossip. Such gossip is viewed as sharing with the group and is validated by the group. Very odd... but makes sense.
But hey... on a lighter note, I won it all in some light poker play earlier tonight. There's a tournament tomorrow (for charity) and I'm hoping my new lucky cap can continue to bring me luck!
6 comments:
check out my advise for the Indy
500 on your kentucky derby post.
You sound like you aren't from Chocago, but are going to school here. You, and maybe some of those same 7 folks who went to the derby with you, might really dig the Indy 500 this sunday in indianapolis. It's probably the coolest and in ways strangest thing
to do memorial day week-end out here. It's not like Nascar, and is quite prestigious, and showcases racers from Brazil, Italy, etc.,
much more like formula 1 racing.
We usually have japanese drivers as well. Its cheap(15 bucks at the gate will get you grandstand tix,
while you can get decent infield bench seats for 40 bucks online),
and a real blast. Its a total carnival atmposhere outside and inside, and it starts at noon, and lasts about 3 hours. Highly recommended, and only a two hour drive away!
If you have a ny questions about it, you can e-mail me at southwest3210@yahoo.com...later
-Scott
Oh, forgot to say I found your blog
via Mark Cuban's thing. Gotta love
Mark, the richest person on the planet to actively cultivate a daily blog(Richard Branson has one,
but farts around once in a while on it, when he feels like it, while Cuban puts reams of daily stuff on there(great comments by people on there too, which I live more that the posts themselves).
Good Luck with the MBA. I presume you will be going into inv. banking. I did that for 12 years with citigroup on the 88th fl of the Sears Tower, and quit it all this year to focus on my ticket-hub-ish biz which not only brings in 75% of what I used to make, but enables me to live anywhere I jolly well please. I'm trying Austin, Tex. right now, but after 3 months its getting old, though the south by southwest conference
in march was a blast. All they have
out here is a motherload of bars and restaurants, and you can only drink, eat, and excrete so much before it gets old. I'm gonna move back to wrigleyville this summer
for awhile and go from there.
I figure that this week-end is a good time to drive back, so I can catch the Indy on sunday. It truly
is quite a blast, and blows your hearing away for about a week, but it comes back......
-Scott
Oh, forgot to say I found your blog
via Mark Cuban's thing. Gotta love
Mark, the richest person on the planet to actively cultivate a daily blog(Richard Branson has one,
but farts around once in a while on it, when he feels like it, while Cuban puts reams of daily stuff on there(great comments by people on there too, which I live more that the posts themselves).
Good Luck with the MBA. I presume you will be going into inv. banking. I did that for 12 years with citigroup on the 88th fl of the Sears Tower, and quit it all this year to focus on my ticket-hub-ish biz which not only brings in 75% of what I used to make, but enables me to live anywhere I jolly well please. I'm trying Austin, Tex. right now, but after 3 months its getting old, though the south by southwest conference
in march was a blast. All they have
out here is a motherload of bars and restaurants, and you can only drink, eat, and excrete so much before it gets old. I'm gonna move back to wrigleyville this summer
for awhile and go from there.
I figure that this week-end is a good time to drive back, so I can catch the Indy on sunday. It truly
is quite a blast, and blows your hearing away for about a week, but it comes back......
-Scott
sorry for the double post....
those word verification thingies
are to blame.
I'll be Z. Don't ask y.
verification: mcmlu.
Indeed... but Z may not have solicited anything.
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